Marshall Brain's Blog

This article from advice columnist Amy Dickinson appeared in our local paper last week:

Dad watches porn while feeding the babies

The question that Amy is responding to comes from a new mother of twins whose husband is watching porn while feeding the babies at 2AM.

The part that is intriguing to me is these two sentences from Amy's reply:

The first months of your twins' lives are exhausting and overwhelming for everyone. Your husband may be wondering — as many husbands do — if he will ever get his own personal porn star back. (That would be you, by the way).

It's intriguing because I have never thought of my wife as my personal porn star. That puts a new spin on things.

It became even more intriguing a day or two later when I realized that if she is my personal porn star, then I must be her personal porn star as well. That puts another new spin on things.

Ultimately it causes you to ask an inevitable question -- is each couple's relationship an elaborate porn film featuring two porn stars as they live their lives? I'll leave that question for the philosophers. It certainly would be a different way to look at life.

Anyway, I can tell you that my porn movie has changed since I realized I am one of its stars.

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